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I am a learning addict, animal lover,and a Northern Tradition Heathen

Another child


3 year old Mayouna Smith of Amherst Ny was murdered last weekend. Immediately people are calling out CPS as a failure. CPS or Child Protective Services in Erie County(where her death took place)Like every were else, needs updated, I’ll admit that.

People are overlooking something. This happens in a lot of domestic violence situations.

First is the fact that Mayouna’s killer chose to hurt her. That is, instead of learning positive ways to deal with their shit, they chose to hurt those that love them. An abuser doesn’t have to be an abuser,once they realize that they are a threat they can do whatever it takes to be better people. This person chose not too.

Next is the mother.  I give her a little less blame due to her apparent situation(as long as she didn’t kill her daughter) As the mother of Mayoura she had responsibility to protect her offspring. To some extent I understand why she didn’t do that. There was an infant in the house hold, perhaps she was protecting that child. Their is also a big possibility that she feared the consequences of leaving. Its not hard to track a person down and she probably wouldn’t have gotten much help from the authorities. Odds would have been good that she may have been hunted down and killed(now you know one of the reasons people don’t leave). She still had a job to do

There is also the system aside from CPS. You get the courage to finally press charges and your told that your torture isn’t worth their time because you didn’t die or come close. If they do choose to go after the abuser they only get a half ass sentence but before that they get out on bail. They are also angry, maybe enough to “convince”you to drop charges or just kill you. If you keep you head down you may just survive so you stay and that is used against you too if you decide to press charges. The systems treatment of survivors reduces the likelihood of them leaving.

When the story of Mayoura’s death broke it was said that neighbors heard a girl screaming and a man yelling.  That in itself is abuse especially since she was 3 years old, she probably had no idea what he was saying. The people heard the screaming just heard her screaming. That’s it. They probably heard her being killed and chose to do nothing. Not even call the police and check on the screaming girl. Check on because their was a terrified child screaming and the police can’t instantaneously transport places and people should be willing to do whatever necessary to protect children.

So, in summery, CPS isn’t the only one that failed, in fact, they have no records in Erie county of even receiving a report. That would mean the entire community failed directly and indirectly to save, not only Mayoura Smith. 


Mayoura Smith(2012-2014)

Abdifatah “Abdi” Mohamud(2003-2012)

Eain Brooks(2009-2013)


BOWE BERDGDAHL PROOF of LIFE!: What can his supporters do now?


Sgt Bowe Bergdahl - America is Waiting for You

2014 1JAN 16 PofL Contact CongressNow with news of the recent proof of life video showing Bowe, it’s all the more important to get a hold of your Members of Congress and let them know that there are literally tens of thousands of Bowe supporters who are calling on them to TAKE ACTION and obtain Bowe’s release. How much longer must he wait for freedom! Let them know that America can no longer allow Bowe to remain in enemy hands!  Our Members of Congress have a VERY large say as to how and when Bowe’s release will be obtained.  Let them know that America is counting on the to do the right thing.

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Dad watched a tv show last night that had some guy saying another guy hates America because he’s called out some of the Americans sins.  Look, here’s the deal,  It doesn’t mean he hates America, It means he’s aware of our history. 

As an American I admit my country is a great country, even if we are letting a lot of out rights away. Not just the 2nd amendment everyone is so fond of protecting, probably why not much has been done to take our guns away.  Turns out there are other ones.

Thing is, We can make our country better by knowing all of the past, even the crappy parts.  I don’t mean by getting bitter and vengeful, are hard thing not to be. Did you know back in the day Indian reservations were basically concentration camps?  Japanese internment? Tuskegee Experiment? Instead of being bitter we can remember the consequences of not having our rights and protect them better.  We can be grateful for what we have and what others have given to get us to this point.

Speaking of America’s mistakes isn’t hating America, it may cause some hatred in some people. It may also teach us important lessons to make our country better


WTF(Possible triggers)




I hate double standards, for example I was on and I came upon “Double Standard: Rape, Female on Male”  Reminded me of me of the toons I watched when I was a kid.  Girls would hit guys for comic relief.  So is Female on male rape.  

Again, WTF.

And people say we don’t encourage rapists in out culture. 

Women are terrified to come forward when this shit happens to us, we are blamed, disowned, re-victimized.  SO are men, difference is men are supposed to be dominant, a thing from the old days when guys could do anything sexually but be submissive.  They would suffer not only trauma but ostracism.

Bull Shit.

People also believe that women can’t rape men because we are innies and they’re outies.  News flash.  A guy can get a hard on if they want to or not.  I’m not just talking about morning wood here, stimulation does the trick.  It’s an involuntary reaction.

More importantly, it’s not funny or okay.


Don’t care how much of a playboy he is. 

They aren’t being jerks, cheating, or cooperating.  It shouldn’t be ignored.

The rapists are sex offenders no matter their gender.




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